Editor’s Note: Kelly Slater published this piece on The Inertia one year ago, and we believe it’s just as meaningful today as it was then. Please take a moment to read it and remember the life of Andy Irons on the second anniversary of his death.

Andy Irons Remembered

if we learn anything from that, let it be that the positive impact of Andy and all our other friends who are gone bring us closer to the ones and the things that we love right here, right now. Photo: Tupat/Patrick Eichstaedt


The Inertia

I’ve been asked for many opinions and interviews about Andy Irons and the situations and decisions that lead to his early departure from our world. It’s not something I take lightly. I have my own opinions about not only Andy’s choices and how he ultimately got to the place he did, but also about the way these things are handled from all sides of the story. But what is right? And whose opinions actually matter other than those of his family and closest friends about who they knew and how they feel inside? What is it that each of us hopes to take away from the Andy Irons story? And what is it that we want to give to the story of his life?

I dealt, in a strange way, with the death of my own father through Andy.  Even though he was 6 years younger, he reminded me of an older brother and for that reason alone we had a heated relationship. We wanted the same thing and knew the other was in the way.

My father passed away in April 2002, and I made shirts with his picture on it. Andy and I weren’t close then so he had no idea, and for the next few months I stumbled around like a zombie tripping out that I would never again see my dad. Andy had just started his roll that year by winning a couple of events and taking the lead on Tour, and I had just gotten back on Tour but found myself not really caring about winning anything except maybe a war of words or a fight with somebody. Andy was just the guy.

I’ll share a story, but for the sake of brevity, I’ll just say this: We got really drunk on a Tavarua trip. We got into a shouting match. I said something about him thinking he’s the man for winning a couple of contests. He screamed and laughed at me, “You’re going baaaalllldddd, hahahaha.” I told him he’d know how I felt when his father passed away, and he started kicking me in the face. (I had earlier punched him in the face in a crazy 10-man wrestling match in a taxi). Then Shane Dorian tackled him and pulled him off me telling him my father had just died a few weeks ago.  Andy started crying hysterically and hugging and apologizing to me for the next half hour before he went to bed and then apologized again the next day.  In some weird way I think I just wanted him to know that I was hurting because he had a way of just sorta being tough even though he was one of the most sensitive guys in the world.  There was just this strange and awkward dynamic between us.  Months later, he won his first title and all I could think to do was give him one of the shirts that I had made with a picture of my dad on it and congratulate him.  He gave me a hug and thanked me and felt really awkward that I gave him a shirt with a picture of my dad on it.  On one level he knew what it was about, and on another level he wasn’t gonna let me put a chink in his armor and wear that damned thing.  For all I know, he either burned it or hid it. I’ve often wondered.

The following years have been pretty well documented in our history.  Not always correct or spot on, but at other times pretty accurate. The press maybe said some things that we might have thought but never verbalized.  I loved and hated the guy, but I probably only hated him because I admired and envied what he was capable of.

A year and a half before he died, at the first event of the year, he told me he was making a documentary about the changes and lessons in his life, and he wanted to help any kids that had ever looked up to him and struggled in their lives, because he now knew what was possible.  He was so clear and happy and confident and positive. We stood off away from everyone else and had our first and only real one-on-one, heart-to-heart talk. I actually welled up with tears for how proud I was of him and how insanely unbelievable it was to have Andy look me in the eye and talk straight to me.  He told me he had always looked up to me and asked me if I’d work with him on this documentary.  He told me he couldn’t believe how amazing life was and discussed with me his fears, his goals, his struggles and his family. It was the true epiphany in Andy’s life: the moment he was open to clean out and shift all the things holding him back from his actual potential as a human being.  And that’s the exciting thing: he had so much more ability and knowledge on so many levels.  I won heats against Andy at that particular event and the following one at Bells. The only reason I’m sharing that is because both times he smiled and said good job and although he was pissed off at losing, I could see that he was enjoying the process of learning how to accept things, even the things he really hated, like losing…and to me!

The last time I saw Andy was in Portugal a year ago.  I was just about to clinch the title, and he saw me at the event and gave me a hug and told me he was really proud of me and that he hoped I would win the title in Puerto Rico and that he was “psyched” for me.  I was thinking “Man, if I had only beaten you in Tahiti, this thing would probably be done,” and I sorta mentioned that to him, and we laughed.  He gave me a big hug and high five, and I never saw him again.

Two weeks later in Puerto Rico, some people were saying he was sick, and some people said he was partying. Some people said he never left his hotel room. Martin Potter and I were really concerned when he missed his first heat.  I just remember them calling his name and his three-man heat surfing without him, and I felt really weird about it.  We agreed that we needed to go see him at his hotel and see if he was alright, because there’s no way that he would fly all that way just to miss a heat.  Then we were told that a doctor had seen him, and he was sick and resting.  I was uneasy about him going missing, but at least it was an update.

When he missed his next heat, and I heard that he had left, I was really worried.  I got a call from a friend who was with him in Miami the night before and he asked me why Andy wasn’t staying in Puerto Rico and he told me Andy had caught a flight home thru Dallas. I called Andy’s phone and got no answer.  I sent him a couple of texts and got no reply.  That was within 30 minutes of when he was found in the hotel in Dallas.  About two or three hours later I got the news that he had died.  I sat on the beach with a homeless dog and started getting calls from people.

The story of Andy Irons may likely never feel good to us whether you were his friend and you miss him or you have a strong judgment about his shortcomings and it made you angry. No matter what, it doesn’t make sense for someone so gifted and in touch on so many levels to die alone in an airport hotel room nowhere close to anything that mattered to him. But remembering someone can sometimes be about the toughest thing you ever had with them and feeling like your life is better for having experienced that with them.  And if that can make you laugh or smile, you’re honoring their life and their legacy, I believe.

I have questioned whether anything in our relationship and battles had any impact on the course of his life or whether I could have made a difference somehow. Maybe that’s just my own form of denial, but one thing is clear, I still can’t believe that Andy is gone.  Hell, I still can’t believe that Todd Chesser is gone and Donnie Solomon and Malik Joyeux and a whole bunch of other good friends are gone.  An anniversary is best used for remembering the good things and letting it all sink in more so that the sadness fades away and the good memories remain.  And if we learn anything from that, let it be that the positive impact of Andy and all our other friends who are gone bring us closer to the ones and the things that we love right here, right now.

I’ll leave you with one last thought of Andy. The other day I was with a friend who had given Andy some rims for his car. In his office, my friend had a signed board from Andy. The autograph was signed, “Picture me Rollin’!”  And so I will, buddy.

With love and respect,

Kelly

 

Read Keala Kennelly’s moving tribute to Andy Irons here and view a collection of Andy Irons photos from Tupat here.

  • Shlee Pea

    Wow this awesome. Very honestly written and great insight into your relationship. Take the title today!

  • Shlee Pea

    Wow this awesome. Very honestly written and great insight into your relationship. Take the title today!

  • BlogoSurf

    What a sincere and positive tribute to AI. Once again, you are proving that, beyond being a champion, you are a man. Cheers from France Kells.

  • Shane S.

    Wow. This may sound ridiculous, but hearing Kelly Slater weigh in on this issue so candidly kind of gives me some closure on things. An amazing tribute…honest. And with a title on the line. All the respect in the world to Andy to Slater and to the sincerity in these words. Thank you so much for sharing!

    • Jerry

      Agreed. Class act – all the way around.

  • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=24305567 Matt Bauer

    Thank you Kelly for sharing, epic piece!

  • Kato

     Thanks for sharing Kelly. Enjoyed reading. Its great to read about who he was and not what he did. Thank you! Good Luck on your 11th. Peace!

    • theSurfTrend

      “Its great to read about who he was and not what he did.” — agreed, great stuff from the champ | A.I. forever

  • Eric

    Can’t help but think of Andy smiling down Mr. Slater.  Good on ya.  Right smack dab in the “11th” hour of your title
    hunt you manage to take the time time to shed some light on the human being Andy was and not just the surfer so few of us really knew.  

    On the anniversary of his passing, I’ll remember Andy for being a true inspiration to so many surfers around the globe.  He gave us some of the greatest years surfing has ever seen.  I hope the Iron’s family feels all the love and respect Andy deserves.

  • Patrick “Tupat” Eichstaedt

    Kelly this an amazing piece you wrote here, if more athletes and public figures could be like you and express the “REAL” then our world would become a better place. You are my favorite surfer and have inspired so many as AI is doing and did. I am proud to be a Floridian surfer because of you. Thank you for sharing these times and feelings you had with our friend Andy. Congratulations today on winning your 11th World Title. Don’t Stop til you get enough!

  • kauaidoc

    This moving tribute gives a unique perspective, thank you, Kelly, for sharing. Would of..should of…could of… always comes up after such tragedy. You have expressed what really matters. Thank you. 
    I have second thoughts about the medical care that Andy was receiving. Oh that I could have spoken with that doctor who saw Andy last. Suffice to say that I am always there for any of you to give advice and critique the care you are getting. 
    Aloha, docTex

  • Matt O’Brien

    Just made my day – thanks Kelly… Now I get to witness your RD3 heat! Nov. 2 is A.I. Day 4 Ever.

  • Al Baydough

    Beautifully stated.

  • Surfer

    Thanks Kelly, though I dont know either of you two personally, I would like to say both of you are champs in my book, the rivalry, competitively, the combination which took surfing to the next level, loved those title races… havent stopped surfing since. love u Andy……..not forgotten RIP

  • Surfer

    Thanks Kelly, though I dont know either of you two personally, I would like to say both of you are champs in my book, the rivalry, competitively, the combination which took surfing to the next level, loved those title races… havent stopped surfing since. love u Andy……..not forgotten RIP

  • ReisP

    Powerful. Thanks for the candid share Ke11y. You’re a legend.

  • ReisP

    Powerful. Thanks for the candid share Ke11y. You’re a legend.

  • MrZeroOC

    Slater’s a class-act all the way. Congratulations on #11 Ke11y!

  • MrZeroOC

    Slater’s a class-act all the way. Congratulations on #11 Ke11y!

  • Gtstommy

    Thank you Kelly, what a heart-felt tribute.

  • Gtstommy

    Thank you Kelly, what a heart-felt tribute.

  • Gil Velasquez

    Great article, good words for a good friend.

    Congrats on your 11th title

  • Gil Velasquez

    Great article, good words for a good friend.

    Congrats on your 11th title

  • Kevins

    Kelly you are a sincere class act brother! I hope you win 20 world titles because you deserve it. God created you for greatness and you are one of the few who are actually living that out. God bless.
    Kevin

  • Kevins

    Kelly you are a sincere class act brother! I hope you win 20 world titles because you deserve it. God created you for greatness and you are one of the few who are actually living that out. God bless.
    Kevin

  • Stu

    who’s got that documentary film?  I’ll bet it could teach a powerful lesson – one AI apparently wanted to teach.

  • Stu

    who’s got that documentary film?  I’ll bet it could teach a powerful lesson – one AI apparently wanted to teach.

  • surferdoc-Kylelinsey

    It’s amazing that after reading a piece like this about Andy and other things written about his love of life, family and friends, it really brings some truth to the statement “Only the Good Die Young”.  I think the gesture of giving him the t-shirt with your dad’s photo was probably one of the greatest gifts Andy had ever received.  Did he wear it? probably not.  Did he tell anyone about it? Probably not.  Did he burn it?  Absolutely not.  There are certain things that only a few people can understand when it comes to each other, and you and Andy seemed to have the certain something.  Without him, we would have never seen your comeback and without you, Andy would have never won the titles he had won.  He needed you as that driving force that only you could give him.  No speech or pep talk or worldwide prowess that created Andy’s motivation to win, it was you.  You knowing that HE was the only person on the planet who on your best days could be you.  That created a bond that only you and he could share.  He passed because it was his time too pass.  It had nothing to do with drugs, or being sick or whatever.  It was just his time, and I can promise you that he was your biggest cheering section today at the contest.  Unfortunately for Rossy, it doesn’t matter how good you are when divine intervention is involved.

  • Steve Fitzpatrick

    Very eloquent writing by Mr. Slater. Is there anything he can’t do? He is the definition of a classy athlete.  It’s too bad he doesn’t get the credit he deserves from the mainstream sports world.

    • Steve Brandon

      I couldn’t agree more. Well written and poignant. 

      Congrats on 11 Kelly!
      All the best to Andy’s family and the memories that will forever live on!!

    • Stewart stoute

      It’s amazing we see the elite surfers as idols, but when humanity comes into play It brings everything and everyone down on the same level. We are human and we have feelings. Touching tribute kel.

  • Steve Fitzpatrick

    Very eloquent writing by Mr. Slater. Is there anything he can’t do? He is the definition of a classy athlete.  It’s too bad he doesn’t get the credit he deserves from the mainstream sports world.

  • Barrelsauce

    Slater you are a man of many talents. if you ever stop surfing you should consider writing, your very gifted at that too apparently. I wonder where you learned to write and speak? 

  • Barrelsauce

    Slater you are a man of many talents. if you ever stop surfing you should consider writing, your very gifted at that too apparently. I wonder where you learned to write and speak? 

  • Moraga&43rd

    Wow, I’m fighting back tears as I post this. Thank you Kelly for taking the time and having the guts to write this. A fantastic tribute and illuminating piece. RIP Andy, and congrats Kelly.

  • Moraga&43rd

    Wow, I’m fighting back tears as I post this. Thank you Kelly for taking the time and having the guts to write this. A fantastic tribute and illuminating piece. RIP Andy, and congrats Kelly.

  • Richard Hilton, DC

    Ke11y Slater, you are one awesome human being!
    That is a wonderful, candid insight of Andy and yourself.
    Congratulations on winning an unprecedented 11th ASP World Title.
    God’s love to you my friend!!!
    Richard Hilton, DC

  • Richard Hilton, DC

    Ke11y Slater, you are one awesome human being!
    That is a wonderful, candid insight of Andy and yourself.
    Congratulations on winning an unprecedented 11th ASP World Title.
    God’s love to you my friend!!!
    Richard Hilton, DC

  • John C

    As I wipe the tears from my eyes I feel a little more in touch with life and everything it involves. I realize that many things I found important in life, aren’t. Life isnt really about what we can do for ourselves or what we can achieve, buy how we can help others. Its through helping others to become better people that we become a better person ourselves. Its how we achieve a certain type of immortality. AI & Kelly are keen to that fact. Thanks Kelly for such an articulate tribute to AI. Thank you AI for making the world a better place in your own special way. You will live on forvever. Congrats on #11 Kelly Slater.

  • John C

    As I wipe the tears from my eyes I feel a little more in touch with life and everything it involves. I realize that many things I found important in life, aren’t. Life isnt really about what we can do for ourselves or what we can achieve, buy how we can help others. Its through helping others to become better people that we become a better person ourselves. Its how we achieve a certain type of immortality. AI & Kelly are keen to that fact. Thanks Kelly for such an articulate tribute to AI. Thank you AI for making the world a better place in your own special way. You will live on forvever. Congrats on #11 Kelly Slater.

  • Rod

    Nice..All Class Kelly. R.I.P Andy..

  • Rod

    Nice..All Class Kelly. R.I.P Andy..

  • Joe

    It is amazing, the people who we share our lives with.  At best, we make each other better in the passing.  We say, “One day at a time,” but act like we’ll be here forever, or our friends and family will.  In a micro second, it all changes.  I never got to patch things up with, “My old man.”  But I’m working hard to patch things up with my son and some others.  Kelly patched things up with his dad and Andy, and won another title today.  Most of us will never get a chance at a title.  But we all have a chance to be healers.  If you asked Kelly which is more important, what do you think he’d say?

  • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=832875216 Candice Storm

    Beautiful, thoughtful, & tasteful!
     

  • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=832875216 Candice Storm

    Beautiful, thoughtful, & tasteful!
     

  • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=832875216 Candice Storm

    Beautiful, thoughtful, and tasteful. 

  • wendysurf

    I felt really sad when I heard Andy died alone. I pray Andy has found peace.

  • David “Boogie” Ward

    awesome totally awesome !!  YEW  

  • Kat

    So true “And if we learn anything from that, let it be that the positive impact of Andy and all our other friends who are gone bring us closer to the ones and the things that we love right here, right now.”

  • Joe Hannah

    It has been said that some of the best friends in the world may have died just in order to save friends & family; we cherish Andy’s memories as such & may God bless you P.A.I.forever

  • http://www.facebook.com/people/Nikos-E-Tsagkarakis/100000545904720 Nikos E. Tsagkarakis

    A very interesting read and insight into the minds of two champions.

  • Freedomstarkauai

    Andy made all of his close friends feel special all the time and he was the inspiration for all the hawaiian people and surfing ohana and keki period he is a legend and goes down in history among the most amazing surfer ever to climb to the top …. until we meet again much love your friend freedom fisher

  • Sbellanto

    Well said.

  • Toose70

    Very well written Ke11y. Thanks for the honesty and insight, into what was a fantastic relationship with a fantastic man. RIP Andy.

  • http://www.facebook.com/bhuigsloot Bernie Huigsloot

    so good to read all the positive things about Andy, especially from Kelly. It tells of the person behind all the media hype and even trying to befriend his fiercest rival Top words Kelly

  • isabel

    Andy all your fans in Portugal miss you a lot. The great thing is that we can feel a little more closer to you in every wave. Andy you ‘ll live always in our hearts. :)
    Congratulations Kelly for your 11th world title! Big Ke11y!!!!

  • Ted B

    Beautifully spoken Kelly. I believe it’s best to remember AI as a great character who brightened up the world of pro surfing (and free surfing for that matter).
    A colorful character, an awesome competitor and an asset to be treasured in our memories.
    I found Kelly’s words inspiring. Humility can never be over-estimated and 11 x World Champion KS has it in spades. Kudos to him.
    Blessings to Lyndie and the whole Irons clan

  • Info

    That was absolutely touching and beautiful.

  • Mark

    Thanks Kelly, Thanks Andy.  You have shown us all much.  In an interview Andy said surfing’s best moments are like being “kissed by God”.   How we touch each other as humans is another way it happens.  Congrats to Kelly on number 11 and thanks for sharing with us.

  • http://twitter.com/Elisa_Serrano Elisa Serrano

    Thanks for sharin this with all us, I have read that 30 minutes ago and I can’t stop crying yet! congrats for your 11th! it sounds so tipical but you’re the best! thanks for all Kelly! A.I FOREVER

  • Bocese

    Thanks for sharing and congrats kelly for your 11 times , remember kelly, that you and your friends no mater what, have the best lifes that anybody could have. so just enjoy it !  i know you are.  Bocese.

  • Frank

    Kelly is the ultimate politician. He’ll tell the sheep what they want to hear… just titillate them with his “candidness” without really saying anything that hasn’t been said before. When Kelly starts talking about Billabong’s (and other surf corpos) treatment of their young surfers, AI included, and speaks about the serial enablement these corporation provide… THEN I’ll start lavishing the praise.

    This was a political speach that sounds about as carefully scripted as anything you’ll hear from any other bullshit artist in politics.

    Stop blindly bobbing your heads to essentially a bunch of words that said NOTHING.

    • honesty

      So true…It’s not cool to seek the truth in the surf world. The athletes are nothing more than pawns on the chessboard, and a bunch of self-involved narcissists to boot.

      • Dandaman

        No naivety. 

      • Al Baydough

        So I take it you know every ASP surfer on the planet.

      • Al Baydough

        The thing about the truth is that it matters how, when, and where you tell it more than telling it at all.

         That’s a truth you apparently have no comprehension of. 

    • Al Baydough

      This is a eulogy. Your comments are better served in the proper context; this isn’t that context. Grow up.

    • Dandaman

      So you have an axe to grind. Why should Kelly to do your dirty work for you? If you want to pursue this “serial enablement”accusation get on with it, name your sources. Please don’t do it here though. As Al Baydough says, it’s the wrong context. I look forward to hearing your explosive revelations on a more relevant  thread. Until then, respect for Andy’s closest family and friends would be appreciated.

    • bob

      you’re a dick

    • Frank Dagostino

      What a Tool you are !!

      Kelly as long as you winning titles and pissing on ous batteries like this doos Frank, Retirement is out of the question.>!!!

      Knuckles ,Jbay

    • Tommytran6392

      Dude ! as long as he keep winning , he can bullshit ,political speech as much as he want and loser like you dude , shut the f%$# up ,. 

    • Al Baydough

      Apparently the Westboro Baptist Church is now protesting on surf websites.

    • Cccolachis

      Serial enablers? Name one well known person that doesnt have ‘yes men’ answering his every whim?

    • kathleen adams

      Frank, what do you happen to numb yourself and close your heart so that you cant possibly fathom Kelly’s completely open, soulful revelations and sharing of his sporting friendship and comradship with the And? The fact that you would even THINK these thoughts let alone POST them makes me truly sorry for you and those around you in your life. It’s just AMAZING that you could possibly come up with such a statement of these heartful soulful words from Kelly!!!

  • Rushy

    Ke11y, you’re a living legend, and not just for the 11 World Titles. Results only tell half the story. I’m in awe of a really great person (and surfer too). Wish I could meet you!

  • http://www.facebook.com/dbradb Brad Handrüp

    Thoughts from the heart and I’m sure he is looking over you like a big bro.. thanks for your awesome positive outlook and congratulations on your 11th ASP!

    -a gulf coaster waiting on winter swell

  • Dalelanileh

    thanks ke11y I loved watching you surf at the us open and win. I hope you surf in the asp next year the tour wont be the same without you. I also hope you surf the us open next year. Good surfing in sf you blew our minds yeeeooow!!!!!!!!! I want to see you get 15 

    RIP AI

  • Lily_beristain

    Thank you for sharing such an honest tribut to one of the best. You have touched me thru your story with Andy. God bless you riding those amazing water mountains. Lily

  • ConaWaves

    Spoken like a true friend and champion Kelly.  You really conveyed and defined your love and hate for Andy here, and it certainly helped shed a lot of light on Andy as a son, a brother, a husband, a friend, a stranger, and a hero.  Andy will forever remain in our hearts and thoughts throughout the surfing world, and its great to hear about the positive emotional effects one hero has on another.  Congratulations on your 11th world title pal.  I’m sure Andy kept the shirt you gave him with your Dad’s picture on the front, and it who knows, it may have comforted him and gave him strength in ways that no one will ever know.  RIP AI.

  • Robrisk66

    well done kelly..i nice honest tribute to a friend and fellow surfer..we all live and we all die..we have all sufferd some sort of loss in our lives..we feel sad,hurt and alone at times..but these times only make us stronger as we reflect on the passings of our friends and family and smile at the moments we share..always remembering that this is just another part of who we are..rob..

  • Cjvigiano

    Great article, read like a letter, and gave me closure. Remember AI always

  • http://www.facebook.com/people/Terry-Lamb/730307201 Terry Lamb

    This is a very touching and well written Eulogy for AI, Kelly!! I’ve met you a few times and you are always a True Champion!! Congrats on your 11th Title and I agree with Outside Magazine that your feats have been the top Athletic accomplishment in Sports, surpassing even those of Michael Jordan, Tiger Woods, Babe Ruth, and other greats! You’re a Class Act and Mahalo for your honesty and sharing!

  • Sean Collins

    Thanks Kelly. We all needed that. Sean…

  • Ryanabribat

    really touching stuff.  so so tragic.  just want to say this had a heavy impact on me and i never met or knew andy ever.   i guess he was my hero and i never knew it.  thanks slater for the story. 

    ryan-

  • mike

    Thanks for the memories Andy (rip) Kelly spoken like a true champion.

  • Jstacywestlake

    Kelly,
    Thank you for taking the time to write this, but most of all- share it. It saddens me deeply to read but also gives me closure. I’ve often wondered where you two were at when he passed (friends wise..) and I am very happy to learn you were in that place..It takes a LOT for you two to be as good&competitive yet still work through it&find an amazing friendship. I am so sorry for your loss. He was such a great guy, and you are a better person for having the strength to be who you are&do this. YOUR FANS LOVE&SUPPORT YOU MORE THAN YOU COULD EVER KNOW!!! I’m stuck in Malibu riding baby waves but trips to Costa Rica&parts of Mexico take me deeper in the barrel&closer to God. You said Andy died so far from where he belonged……maybe that was on purpose. As I believe everything is. God knew being in Puerto Rico, close to his passion&his friends, he would not stop fighting. I do believe Andy was hurting. He couldn’t give up his battle until he got very far away from all things positive to him….as you ride the waves, he’s right there with you, cheering you on!
    XOXOOXOXO

  • Mark Twain’s Retarded Ghost

    “The thing about the truth is that it matters how, when, and where you tell it more than telling it at all.”Perhaps… the most retarded statement ever made on the internet.

  • Yogiprem

    I often wonder what kind of Man you are, I mean aside from all the pics, and titles and media, and here you are showing a side of you and your relationship with someone that has been documented but often colored though the vision of a voyeuristic culture trying to understand what it is that makes you and Andy.  I never met Andy but yet his death sparked a sadness in me I could never access, and your words helped me understand what it is about someone’s untimely passing that sparks so much emotion on such a deep level.  It just sucks to say goodbye when no one told me it was gonna be today.  Thanks Champ.  I allways knew you would do it…Truly show us what beauty is.  Stay Human even if for just a little while…Prem

  • Yogiprem

    After reading KK and Kelly’s blog on Andy’s passing, I asked myself, 
    “why does someone’s passing hurt so much?” 
    The only answer I could come up with is: 
    “Would you want it any other way?”

  • Chrisdworsky

    Wow

  • Chrisdworsky

    Wow

  • Monik Aloha

    Well done Kelly! well written and well putt.  I enjoyed reading every work of it! It’s sad but yet brings joy to have closer.  Thank you for sharing your story!